There is probably nothing as sad as a sweet love affair gone sour. It is quite a difficult time for anyone whenever there happens to be a breakup and both parties have to go their different ways for whatsoever reasons might have been put up to necessitate the breakup.
Whichever way we look at it, the truth is that breakups are a part of our lives and we therefore need to accept them when they occur and learn to move on with our lives. With that said, it is still not that easy getting over a breakup. Due to the space in time between the breakup and finding a new relationship, depression, which so often sets in during this period, is a very big problem for most people after a breakup. You will need every help possible to quickly and easily get over the breakup and start living life again.
It is so naturally that when we are happy we simply smile, and when sad, we cry. We need to come to terms with our feelings at this time of sadness and you should not let anyone tell you not to cry during this period only avoid doing it unnecessarily. When you feel the pain of the breakup surging within you and you feel like crying, don't try to hold it back but simply just let yourself cry for a while. Open up yourself and let those warm tears fall down your cheeks and believe you me, after those sobs, you will definitely feel good about yourself. Those tears often helps you comes to terms quickly with the reality of the breakup.
After a breakup, the propensity is to get bitter and start blaming your ex for the breakup accompanied with no small amount of self-talk about how you were ditched by him or her. A sure way of avoiding this tragic situation is to spend quality time with friends.
The period immediately after a breakup, is often the best time to have your close circle of friends around and this should be a pointer to why you should always strive to build good friendships because you never know when you will need good friends to be around you. A caveat here is that depending on how much your ex and your relationship with your friends overlapped, you might need to be careful associating with some of them at this stage as they can very likely bring back memories you would rather want to forget.
At times like these, not everyone can deal with the problem alone and often the advice and care of friends and acquaintances might not suffice. It might therefore be necessary to seek the help of a professional who might be in a better position to assist. Look for a professional relationship counsellor or pick up one of two professional recommended readings to help with your recovery. The unbiased advice from a professional is in fact more effective at this time than that of friends and family.
Also, there is the need for you to get out more and engage in activities that would help occupy your time and keep you busy so that you have little or no leisure time to whine and pine over the breakup. Physical activities like running, going to the gym and riding a bike releases endorphins, a hormone produced in the brain that reduces the feeling of pain, stress and such ill-feelings like anger, frustration and heartaches. Remember to ensure that you take care of yourself. Your welfare both mental and physical should not be allowed to suffer because you are upset with your breakup.
The most important thing to do after a painful breakup is to think positively. There are reasons for every action under the sun and your breakup is not an exception in any way. Retrospectively look back into what might have caused the relationship to fail. Evaluate it and try to pinpoint the moment things started falling apart. Get a clear idea of the problems that occurred and made it not to work. Through such self reflection you might discover that you and your ex simply might just need time and space apart for a while, you might not be compatible or just not meant for each other.
Always remember that the end of a relationship is not the end of the world. Things might not be the same again after the breakup but depending on your actions, they could definitely get better after the wounds might have taken their time to heal.
That said you should understand that even when we think we've probably lost the best love of our life, as most people are oft to think, a better love might just show up and the lessons we've learnt from this failed one could be the building blocks of your true happy-ever-after.
Written by Raymond Ehoma
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